31- Was he to be blamed for having had two wives?
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 31 Dear Dr. Smith
Jacob chose Rachel for his wife. He was given Leah whom he had not chosen.
The Lord's instruction is one man one wife. Was he to be blamed for having had
two wives?
 
My dear Friend,
Polygamy in the Old Testament did not start with Jacob, but pre-dates Jacob’s time. However, in His response to the Pharisees about marriage and divorce, Jesus said, " Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, for this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. (Matthew 19:4-6)
 
Notice that when God created Adam, He provided him with a single wife, and there is no other evidence that Adam ever had another wife. Hence the blueprint for the marriage relationship was established.
Men like Job, Isaac, Noah and Moses, are prime examples of Old Testaments Patriarchs who had only one wife. In the New Testament the apostle Paul admonishes, “nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband (1Cor 7:2). Monogamy is again endorsed, when Paul writing to the young Timothy, gave him basic requirements for offices in the Church. "Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well." (I Timothy 3:12)

It is interesting to note that polygamy brought problems for those Old Testament men who chose to practice it. For example, Abraham had conflict because of the jealousy between Hagar and Sarah.
 Jacob had conflict between the two sisters. David did not get to build the sanctuary, (the one thing he desired most) because of his unfaithfulness, and Solomon’s downfall came as a result of his many wives.
To be specific to your question, “was Jacob to be blamed for having had two wives?” The answer is, Polygamy was never endorsed by
God.

Have a great day
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Dr. Smith