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Dear Dr. Smith

How do you handle rejection and get over a broken relationship?

Dear Broken Heart,
All of us are prone to disappointment and feelings of rejection. This is especially true in the aftershock of a broken relationship. Some people have the coping skills and coping mechanism to handle the rejection and to cushion the blow, while others find themselves wilting in a state of dejection. Rejection is never easy; it leaves an empty, hollow, painful feeling in the labyrinth of the soul. Rejection can lead to:
  • Hopelessness  
  • Helplessness
  • Suicide, & suicide ideation
  • Depression,
  • Low self-esteem
  • Social phobia,
  • Sleepless days & nights,
  • Abandonment of goals
  • Abandonment of spiritual principles & faith
The way we view the rejection will determine the way we feel and how we behave. If we view it negatively the outcome will be negative, or vise versa. The best way to overcome rejection is to stay in control of your emotions and stay away from self-pity. Here are some practical steps that will help you overcome rejection:
  • Believe in yourself and love yourself
  • If the pain is too much, get help
  • Do not run after the person, you will only become a doormat
  • Never say, “I will do whatever you want”
  • Avoid self-blame, however if you are at fault, work on improving yourself
  • Stop the denial; if it’s over, it’s over. As painful as that is, move on
  • Never, ever harm yourself or the other person
  • Stop the sleeping- do some chores, eat your meals
  • Stop the crying, stop the sighing, stop the pining and stop the wining
  • Compose yourself: Face your reality, life goes on
  • Watch for quick rebounds, avoid forming relationships for healing
  • Pray! Ask God for strength
Remember, God will not reject you, in John 6:37 He says, “him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out.”
God bless and keep courage.

Dr. Smith