96 If I had to make a choice between becoming a prostitute and staying a Christian
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Dear Dr. Smith

I want you to know that I am a teenager that hates my dumb religion and everything about it. I do not understand who God is, and if I had to make a choice between becoming a prostitute and staying a Christian, my answer most indisputably would be a prostitute. I don’t think I will ever commit my life to God again, and I will never come back to Church. I don’t want to hear from you and I don’t want to hear from anyone. Goodbye.

Dear Goodbye,

Even though you don’t want to hear from me, I feel obligated to respond to your message since you addressed it to me. To be honest with you, I don’t believe that you don’t want to hear back from me. The only reason you wrote to me is to hear from me. At the same time, I can tell from the tone of your letter that you are angry, frustrated, disappointed, bitter, broken, and sad.

No doubt someone has hurt you badly, a Christian if you please, hence the reason for your knee jerk reaction. If it’s not an individual that has caused you pain, then your disappointment and anger come as a result of a disciplinary action taken by your Church. Whatever the reason, you are not thinking rationally now and you need to calm down, pause for a moment, think, reflect and composed yourself. If you act now on impulse, you will regret it later.

There are several reasons why teenagers are angry with and sometimes leave the Church. For example; inconsistencies they see in the Church, the apparent hypocrisy of some members, the duplicity of some parents, and yes the challenges of peer pressure. There are other causative factors as well, such as; rejection by a friend, developing a relationship outside the Church, the pressure to conform or their rebuffing of moral values.

It is easy to blame God for your disappointment and to reject the Church because of your feelings. But in the long run you have more to loose than the Church or God. The Church will always be there and God will always be constant but you can self-destruct because of rash decisions and poor choices. Your wish to choose to become a prostitute over becoming a Christian is laughable, and begs the question, “So?” But that question does not help the situation it only aggravates it. Therefore, I beg you to compose yourself, think again and don’t give up on God, you will always need Him. I know that deep down in your heart you would never, ever choose to become a prostitute, your are just angry at the moment. Please note that your anger will soon dissipate, and you will feel better by then. Here are some steps I am encouraging you to take, and I will be praying for you.
1.    Talk it over with a trusted friend
2.    Speak to your parents or some significant other.
3.    Talk to your pastor or someone in the Church that you admire and respect
4.    Take you Bible up and start reading it, you will find peace
5.    Do not underestimate the power of prayer—even though you are mad, tell God about your madness. Give it to Him, He is big enough to take it
6.    If the pain is too severe, get some professional help

Have a blessed day.

Dr. Smith