111. Before believing, I had several wives, but now...
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Dear. Dr. Smith

How do you advice someone who before believing, had several wives, with dependent siblings but now want to live the light he has received.

Dear Advise Seeker,
Your question is still hotly debated in certain parts of the world, and polygamy is still practice up to this day in some countries. From the Christian perspective, this individual who is now a believing Christian must change his ways. Discipleship calls for radical change. “If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new” (2 Cor 5:17).

When God created Adam, notice that He then created ONE woman for him, Eve. This signifies God’s intention for the family, one woman to one man. Even though polygamy was practice in Old Testament times, God never endorsed it. The Apostle Paul makes it abundantly clear in the New Testament, God’s desire for the family. "Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband."  (1 Corinthians 7:2)

Your question, however, begs an answer to, what should this new believing member do with his many wives and children? As a practicing Christian, he will now have to get an annulment for all the wives that came after the first one. He should still provide the material support to these women and their children, but he must desist from having conjugal intimacy.

Polygamy is never ever an easy thing; hence, there is no easy way out. I trust that over time, the hearts of these women and children will be healed and they will understand the radical claims of the gospel.

Thank you for your question and God bless.

Dr. Smith
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