116. How relevant is the message of chastity to young people in this post-modern age?
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Dear Dr. Smith

How relevant is the message of chastity to young people in this post-modern age? Isn’t it better to encourage them to use condoms and other forms of birth controls? Isn’t if far better for a teenager not to become pregnant or to father a child when they are not in a position to provide for it? They are all having sex, so why not endorse safe sex than archaic impossibilities. Sometimes we make religion a burden and that is why young people are leaving the Church.

Concern Parent.


Dear Confused Parent,

Your questions and suggestions border on insanity. It’s a toxic mix of creeping compromise and defiance, and it begs the question, are you illogical or irrational?
Let’s look at your questions in parts:

1. How relevant is the message of chastity to young people in this post-modern age?

Answer! Very relevant! Chastity is not a human phenomenon it is a divine concept. The Apostle Paul admonishes, “Flee youthful lust” (2 Tim 2:22), “Abstain from fornication” (1 Tes 4:3) “Abstain from fleshly lust” (1 Pet 2:11) and that “the body is not for fornication” (1 Cor 6:13).
Teen sexual activity rates have been dropping for over a decade, and now the majority of high school students are virgins. (Centers for Disease Control) Between 1991 and 2005, the sexual activity rate of high school boys dropped twice as quickly as that of high school girls. (Center for Disease Control) Among those who have already lost their virginity, two-thirds of them wished they had waited longer to have sex, 77% girls and 60 % of guys). (National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy)
Based on the statistic the message of teen chastity is quite relevant in this post-modern age.

2. Isn’t it better to encourage them to use condoms and other forms of birth controls?

Human papillomavirus (HPV) is the most common STD. While condom use may reduce the risk of HPV related diseases, it doesn't adequately protect individuals from HPV, because the virus is spread from skin-to-skin contact throughout the entire genital area, including one's thighs and lower abdomen. (National Institutes of Health) Birth-control pills interfere with a woman's immune system, making her more likely to contract certain STDs. It is much better and quite safer to encourage teens to develop impulse control.

3. Isn’t if far better for a teenager not to become pregnant or to father a child when they are not in a position to provide for it?

YES, it is far better and that’s why I am endorsing teen chastity because that is the safest and best way to prevent pregnancy. Besides, when a man is married as a virgin, his divorce rate is 63 percent lower than a non-virgin. For women, it's 76 percent lower. Laumann, et al., (1994) More reasons to become chase.

4. They are all having sex, so why not endorse safe sex than archaic impossibilities.

If you think the Bible is outdated and archaic, then yes, I can understand why you feel the way you feel on this subject. But because I take the Bible as the living word of God, and that it is relevant to all peoples in every generation, then not only do I disagree with your position on this matter but I also see them as sinfully destructive to the family.

Research shows that the younger a girl is when she becomes sexually active, the more likely she is to experience multiple sexual partners, STDs, out of wedlock pregnancies, depression, abortion, and poverty (Heritage Foundation). I don’t know how as a mother you could endorse this for your daughters.

What you are asking for is for the baby and the bathwater to be thrown out. According to your theory, thousands of teens are using the drug, methamphetamine, therefore legalize it, there are thousands of bank robbers, therefore permit stealing, some men are cheating on their wives, therefore, allow men to cheat.
How do we set standards, boundaries, laws and orders? And why would we need them in the first place? Your suggestions are not just pathetic they are despicable

5. Sometimes we make religion a burden and that is why young people are leaving the church.

If young people are to remain in the church by legalizing sin, then we are among all men most miserable. Have a good day.

Dr. Smith
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