161. Married but still in love with high school sweetheart
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Dear Dr. Smith

I am a married Christian woman and is still in love with my high school sweetheart for over 20years. What do I do?

Dear Married Christian,
You seem to be going through a state of ambivalence and I am not sure what you are asking of me. Do you want to know what you should do with your marriage or with your sweetheart? Well, let me see if I can make this easy for you. Divorce your husband and marry your sweet heart! Are you happy now that you consulted me and got the desire of your heat? “Hello!!” You know what you are to do. This is not a situation in which you are searching for answers. There is only one option, and that is, end the emotional nightmare you are having with your high school sweetheart and invest your emotion in your marriage.

Twenty years is a long time. It seems as if you have married your husband under false pretense. You did not genuinely love him. Was that fair to him? Notice that you are not complaining about any problems in you marriage, you are just hungering and thirsting after what is not. You did say, however, that you are a Christian woman, and Christian woman are suppose to do the right thing, that is, end the infatuation.

By the way, do you remember the “dog and bone” story? What you are hallucinating about is only a shadow. Be careful that you don’t drop the bone in your mouth while going after a mere reflection. In other words, while you are day dreaming about the pebble on the beach, you might be loosing a diamond at home. My grandmother would say, “all that glitter is not gold.”

God bless.
Dr. Smith
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