179. I have secretly impregnated a girl
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Dear Dr. Smith

Is it good to marry someone I have secretly impregnated in order for the church not to know of the wrong doing?

Dear Friend,
It may appear to you as secret now, but the next 7-9 months will tell a different story, and the next 17 years may seem as undue punishment for that which was just a mere secret impregnation.

Besides, getting married to cover up a pregnancy is never a good thing. Pregnancy does not mean compatibility or the fulfillment of God’s will in your life. It is better to acknowledge your sins, ask for forgiveness, get re-baptized and if it is the Lord's will that you should marry this person, then you do so in an open and healthy way.

At the same time, you have taken on a lifetime responsibility. So whether you marry her or not, it is your duty to provide for the mother and baby. That secret thing you did, after all, is not so secret anymore, you will have to man up to your responsibility and provide for you child. Remember, “if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.” (1 Tim 5:8)

Finally, secret marriages don't cover sins and seldom last. I see your concern is with the church, but your concern should be more with God. The shallowness of an outward pretense is a mere cover up for a deeper infectious sinful wound.

Please do the right thing.

God bless.
Dr. Smith
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