181. The SDA Church appears very anti-Chatholic and...
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Dear Dr. Smith
I have so many questions I don't know where to start. I am a baptized Seventh-day Adventist that is married to a wonderful catholic man. I have always had an open view of Christianity and believe we are all one body worshiping the same God. I married in the Catholic Church because the SDA church would not marry us. I attend church on Saturday and join him for mass each Sunday. He does not accompany me to church on Saturday and does not like me to invite him. I starting to realize that the SDA church appears very anti-Catholic and I feel that this could seriously strain our relationship now that we have a newborn baby daughter. I intend to take her to church on Saturday and accompany her with dad to mass as I promised in my vows. I would like to know if Adventism is a cult, is Ellen White a false prophet that has misinterpreted the Bible. I want unity in my home. I want to know the Bible truths from the Bible alone with no addition. Should I stay an Adventist or look for a denomination that is less antagonistic. I respect the Catholic people I know, but do not accept a lot of their practices, yet I find faults and have questions about Adventist.
Confused Wife.

Dear Confused Wife,
I read your concerns carefully and I have assessed the sentiments of your hearts. You are in a “No Win” situation. Your first mistake was to marry outside your faith, your second mistake is to be going to two different churches and taking your child along. Your third mistake is to be second-guessing your religious faith.

I will start with the last one first. I want you to be honest with me, you are having these question about the 7th day Adventist Church because you want to give yourself permission to attend the Catholic Church fully, even though your conscience is bothering you about doing that. If you can construct a faulty argument about the truth, it then becomes easier to justify whatever you choose to believe.

Please note that the 7th day Adventist church is not antagonistic to the Catholic Church. Neither is it anti-Catholic, they just have different doctrines. The Seventh-day Adventist Church maintains that Christ never changed the 7th day Sabbath to the 1st day Sunday, and acknowledged that, that change was done by the Catholic Church. (See the Edict of Milian 313 & The Council of Laodicea A.D. 336) That’s not antagonism or anti-Catholic, it’s merely stating the facts and pronouncing the truth. The Church is not a cult, it has never been and will never be. It is a Bible believing, truth embracing, people loving Church. Ellen G. White, is not our Bible, she is not a false prophet, she is a woman called by God to do a particular work for these end times.

Your second mistake: The dual church attendance with your child. You have referenced the promise you made in your vow as the reason for going to mass with your daughter. Do you remember the promise you made to God in your baptismal vow? Do you know that in the eyes of God a baptismal vow is greater than marriage vow? The marriage vow is to each other, the baptismal vow is to you and God. Remember, Jesus says, no one can serve two masters. (Matt 6:24)

I will end on your first mistake. Marrying outside of your faith. You cannot go against the word of God (2 Cor 6:14) and then try to justify your actions. The reason why the Bible gives such clear instructions is for us to avoid exactly what you are now experiencing. God knows best for us. At the moment you are thinking heavily of leaving the 7th day Adventist Church and join your husband in the Catholic Church. That will not resolve your problem. If you take a round peg and place it in a square hole it will not fit. You cannot walk away from the truth and experience peace in your soul. If you do, you happiness will only be temporary. Psychologically your mind will gravitate back to the truth and you will be among all women most miserable. Therefore, your choice has put you between the rock and a hard place.

Your only way forward, is to be the best wife you can be to your husband. Respect his choice of religion and don’t seek to annoy him with yours. You need to be going to one church service so that you can grow in God’s grace and avoid confusion. Therefore, settle down in your 7th day Adventist Church and be a part of its worship experience. Stop comparing one religion with the other. Two of the major differences between the 7th day Adventist Church and the Catholic church are that the SDA church practices baptism by immersion as taught in the bible (Matt 28: 19 & 20) the Catholic church practices sprinkling that cannot be found in the bible. The SDA church accepts the 7th day Sabbath as the day of worship according to the bible (Ex 20: 8-11), the Catholic church accepts Sunday the 1st day as the Sabbath, a change that they themselves have made and there is no biblical grounds for such change.

There is no need to pit one church against the other; they both stand for what they believe. Your duty is to strip yourself of any emotion and follow the truth as expressed in the Bible. Concerning your daughter, you should seek to take her with you to church on Sabbaths. If her father wants to take her to Mass you should not object, teach her as best as you can the ways of righteousness and pray that when she is older, she will make the right decision for her self.

Your decision to marry outside your faith crated these problem, however, by the grace of God, all is not lost, with due diligence, ardent prayer, and a strong faith in God, your family may one day come with you in embracing the Sabbath truth as set forth in the word of God.

I will be praying for you. Stay strong and stay committed.
God bless.

Dr. Smith
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